This is by far the longest I have gone without writing a blog post since I first started blogging. I re-watched Julie & Julia on Netflix yesterday, and after watching Amy Adams update her blog daily, it made me think I should maybe get back to mine. (It also made me crave all of the meals presented in the film and wish I had even the tiniest bit of desire to attempt to cook lavish French meals… which I do not.)
As per the last update, my life has mainly been filled with trying to secure employment, which so far has been unsuccessful, although I suppose I haven’t really been at it that long. I keep reading stories of people who have been out of work for over a year. Oh Lord, please don’t let that be me. It’s only been a bit over a month that I haven’t received a paycheque and I’m already starting to feel anxiety when I fork over my loose change to buy a fro-yo. But on the other hand, I don’t think I’m nearly as stressed as pre-cancer Steph would have been. When I was stuck at home last year with the cancer blues, I remember hearing about everyone’s daily stresses, like trying to find a job, and thinking, I would way rather be in your shoes than mine, you lucky bastards. I was wishing deeply that I could get back to a state where I would be worrying about the same things that everyone else was worrying about at my age, rather than cancer. And here I am – wish, granted! So I really can’t complain. (Although, ask me how I feel a couple months from now, and I might be singing a different tune…)
I also had another dose of perspective and reminder that life is pretty great last week when I celebrated Passover with my family. Passover is my favourite Jewish holiday, and last year, I had to miss out on the celebration. Reading that blog entry is actually quite painful, as I can so clearly remember exactly how miserable I felt on that day, knowing my family was together, while I was lying on my couch, feeling like I wanted to die. But that dark memory managed to make this year’s holiday hold extra significance for me, on a personal level. I was so grateful to be surrounded by my family and once again enjoying a tradition that has become a meaningful anchor for me each and every year.
I now always have this nagging worry of, What if this is my last <insert special occasion/milestone/holiday here> ever? And as much as it can be troubling to have those types of thoughts swarming through your head, it sure does manage to make every moment that much sweeter.
Happy Passover/Easter/holidays to all my lovely readers. Remember to enjoy your family, your friends, and all the little things that make it all worth it.
6 thoughts on “A note on perspective”
Steph–Don’t worry too much about not posting, it represents that you have way better (fun) things going on and that is wonderful. As far as the ‘What if this is the last…’ I think those of us with cancer will always have that playing in our heads. I just texted one of my ‘cancer friends’ on Easter Sunday night and said, ” I think I was the only one at the family Easter gathering thinking, Will I be here for this next year?” It does make us appreciate each day, party, milestone and celebration so much more. (But I would still give anything to naively think I will live to be 90). Happy Passover you look great and happy! Warmly, Kathy U.
Thanks Kathy… if you can do it, I can do it! 🙂 Hope you had a nice Easter.
I love the pictures from your seder. Everyone looks beautiful!!!!!! The job will come in good time!!!!
So happy to see you had a great holiday filled with your family ❤
You and your wonderful husband made our celebration complete this year! Love, love, love.
Hey Steph! All the best on the job hunt. I felt the same way after a month of searching. Ten months down the road, the responses have started pouring in. Have you tried an employment agency? xo Donna